Wednesday, August 5, 2015

Working Girl: A Woman Under The Influence

One of the drawing points of feminism has always been the opportunity for women to “have it all” but at what cost? Feminism told women that they could do everything a man could do and therefore should be encouraged to compete with him in his field. What they didn’t tell women was how differently men and women would approach similar tasks.

Just as the majority of women have relied on their men to do the hard work outside of the home for thousands of years, so have the majority of men relied on their women to do the hard work inside of the home for thousands of years. Over time there have been many women who chose to work in primarily male fields instead of being housewives but they were always few and far in between. When the feminism trend struck the USA in the late 1960’s however, many housewives and would-be housewives decided to work instead. There was no way that men could have seen this coming nor any reason why they would want to embrace it. Men know what it’s like to work a long hard day and the last thing on their mind when they come home is to continue work doing household chores. This is why the balance of husbands working and wives staying home was so beneficial to the marriage and family. There was a real partnership between men and women that allowed both to enjoy as much of their time as possible while maintaining a healthy, secure and positive home. Despite the increase of women joining the workplace, no such increase took place in men trying to become house-husbands. In addition to this, no women were trying to marry any men who didn’t have jobs and proposed being house-husbands. The result of this was that now men and women were both working but women were still the ones with the primary housework load.

To convince women that their new lives would pay off, feminism promised that the women would be happier after pursuing their careers in the workplace.  Well it is 50 years later and studies show that women in America are less happy then they ever have been before. On the flip side, men’s happiness has either stayed the same or slightly increased. When feminists were confronted with this astounding evidence, one got such replies as “It’s so surprising because there are so many more opportunities [than ever before].” Nothing further was debated on this finding.

What good does having more opportunities do if women don’t feel secure enough to make the decisions that they want? Most women after decades of feminist rhetoric still do not want to spend their whole lives in the workplace until retirement the way men do. When was the last time anyone’s heard a mother (or father for that matter) say on their death bed that “I wish I would’ve spent more time on my career than wasting it with my family.”? Yet the reverse of that statement has been uttered far too many times. The majority of American women still dream of settling down to not only be a mother but an active mother who gets to be there for their child’s first steps, words, tooth, school day, school play, music recital, sports game, etc. Unfortunately one thing feminism has actually been successful at is guilt-tripping women into taking on more than they can handle at one time. Since feminists couldn’t get rid of women’s natural desire to become mothers, they manipulated them into abandoning their full mother role all in the name of “choice”. Now generations of American women are living with guilt and regret that they would never have chosen for themselves if they had truly understood the cost of the choices that they were making.

Women can “have it all” and truly always could in this country. The way women maneuvered this difficult task before was by pacing themselves and choosing their priorities so as to be as successful as they possibly could be, both in the workplace and at the home. Because women do have a biological clock for having babies, it is exigent that a woman who wants to be a mother prioritizes finding a husband before the best men/fathers are taken.
Post-feminism women are encouraged to compete with men which, more often than not, repels them instead of attracting them. Too many women pursue careers while ignoring committed relationships until their biological alarm goes off and they are at Step 1 (Finding a Man) to becoming a mother. If they’d secured a husband first, their only task would be the consent of their husband to also be ready for parenthood. This is one of the fundamental reasons that women are less happy than they ever have been before.

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