Friday, August 4, 2017

Has Western Society Become Too Influenced By Feminist Values?

Ever since Feminism, we have been encouraging women to be more competitive and "willing to go after what they want" and encouraging men to be more sensitive and "in tune with their feelings".  Our society tells women to be more ambitious and aggressive than patient and understanding, and tells men the opposite. It hasn't really benefited women or men to follow this advice though. Even though women have gotten more "nasty" and/or assertive and men have gotten more "sensitive" and/or passive, they've still maintained a lot of the same problems they've always had respectively - except now they're worse, because they're compounded with a whole host of new emotional problems. This has resulted in more violent females and depressed males with both being overly emotional.

Many people today have become so touchy, that we have begun to change things to cater more to feelings over facts; fantasies over realities. The Millennial generation especially embodies this. Though Millennials are "passionate about social issues" in a similar manner to the Baby Boomers, they are also more widely considered to be "too soft" in a way that Baby Boomers never were - as Clint Eastwood said, "Everybody's walking on eggshells" nowadays.

Most men - and a few women - too often get turned off by the overwhelming emotional nature of everyday conversation these days. Many people have stopped wanting to confront issues that they see, for fear of facing more of the deflection and narrow-mindedness that comes with feelings-based responses. We can't solve problems in society if we can't talk honestly about the problems themselves.

This political correctness atmosphere has especially affected men - as women's narratives, values and preferences tend to dominate mainstream media and marketing. After all, women make up the majority of US consumer shopping and TV watching. We have also neglected a lot of men's narratives, values and preferences. Since there a lot of facts regarding men that women do not particularly like or want to hear, we either brush them under the rug or try to find a way to punish men - either way subjecting men to a lot of behavioral conditioning.

In addition, even though 50 years ago our society was already protecting women from feeling personally embarrassed or uncomfortable, now our society (primarily Feminist-driven) is protecting women from being accountable by automatically labeling them as "victims" and persecuting men for their gender by labeling masculinity as "toxic". We - as a society driven by Feminist narrative - either lie about women's mistakes or just pretend they don't exist but point out all of men's mistakes. 

Just look at the race between Donald Trump and Hillary Clinton. The majority of mainstream media outlets cried "sexism" whenever Trump attacked Clinton but praised Hillary whenever she attacked Donald - which was sexism in itself (no matter how you personally feel about either of them). This experiment organized by NYU professors switched their genders in an effort to prove that sexism was behind Trump's popularity with the public over Hillary - yet to their surprise, it proved the exact opposite:

As one of the associate professors, Joe Salvatore, said, "I was surprised by how critical I was seeing [Clinton] on a man’s body, and also by the fact that I didn’t find Trump’s behavior on a woman to be off-putting. I remember turning to Maria at one point in the rehearsals and saying, 'I kind of want to have a beer with her!'"

Feminism loves the game of "identity politics" which essentially pits everyone against one another in some way or another:

Furthermore, Feminist values are constantly asking others to put themselves in "our" shoes, but rarely encourages us to put ourselves in others' shoes - leading to a lot of self-centered and narrow-minded behavior and attitudes, which are also destructive to our society.

As a society, we are starting to choose superficial values over substantial values, as well as looking at things more from a short-term perspective rather than long-term. In addition, we are inheriting a lot of hypocrisy from Feminism. For example, we hear a lot of messages about "don't judge" yet we're all forced to make judgments every single day (and Feminism is not only founded on judgement but heavily relies on it). Women complain about "body shaming" yet women still choose to use their physical sex appeal to their advantage; women complain about "beauty standards" yet women are the ones who play the biggest role in setting them; women complain about women not being "slut-shamed" yet women - more than men - refuse to legalize prostitution; we warn women about the "mean guys" out there who want to hurt them yet women who are "mean girls" can be just as bad, if not worse; we warn women about marriages that might not work out yet women aren't warned about the jobs/careers that might not work out and we discourage adhering to gender roles yet not when females are the ones who are negatively affected in the process.

Even though most people do reject Feminism, our society is still heavily influenced by the powerful lobbyist group. Those who reject Feminism still sometimes fall victim to "sexism" towards women over men because of inherent values of society, and those who still embrace Feminism are often victims to manipulations and distortions by/of Feminism.

This is what happened with Cassie Jaye in the aftermath of releasing her film, The Red Pill, which documented the men's rights movement from a neutral perspective (though she was a Feminist at the time of making the film).

The good news - and unsurprising to anti-Feminists - is that even though Cassie Jaye was persecuted by Feminists for making this film, learning the things that Feminism had tried to keep from her knowing, elevated her relationship with her boyfriend-now fiancee. This is a recurring theme for women who either let go of Feminism entirely or at least let go of some Feminist values: their relationships with men improve. (Even Laci Green said the same thing!)

As Cassie Jaye explains, her Feminist perspective gave her a "chip on the shoulder" and made her into a more aggressive/defensive position (which inherently invites conflict). Even Marlo Thomas - former Feminist icon - has admitted, "That's how we've been married for 35 years, you don't give critiques." Feminists and modern society is very hard on men but very soft on women. We over-critique men yet under-critique women and it is creating a harmful imbalance in our society.

Cassie Jaye posed some great questions for herself that every (Western) woman should ask herself: "Who really has the privilege in our relationship? If I could change roles, would I want to?"

If the answer is no, shouldn't we steer away from Feminist values and move more towards Egalitarian ones instead?

1 comment:

  1. I think being in tune with your feelings where necessary is a good thing, like men have always been told to 'suck it up and be men' and that 'boys don't cry' and that's detrimental to human nature as crying and showing feelings and being sensitive are natural (like if a loved one dies, you should be able to feel the feelings and cry, not 'suck it up.') But yeah, being 'over the top' isn't good and the PC culture is deffo playing a part in this with identity politics.

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